Happy Birthday Mom May 16th

Happy Heavenly Birthday Mom

May 16, 2008

The circle has been broken,

but we are stretching to stay

connected. We're looking up

to heaven where you are

looking down.

Happy Birthday Mom,

We love & miss you!

Last year I wrote this:

Happy Birthday Mom

May 16, 2007

Today is Mom's Birthday May 16th

And we will celebrate it without her.....

It has only been a little over a month since

she has been gone....

She would have been a mere 64 years young.

We miss her terribly  and love her so.

We know she is in a better place

as she is "dancing with the angels" on the

streets of gold. I hope you can hear us sing

Happy Birthday To You....

Your in our hearts forever,

We love and miss you

Have a wonderful birthday Mom.

In Memory of Margaret Parkinson

May 16,1943-April 7, 2007

Mother I MISS YOU.. on this Mother's Day

I have been in a funk all day.. I couldn't put my finger on it, I just figured I was tired since I worked the overnight shift, it was rainy and cloudy all day too and that didn't help.

But I guess when all is said and done, I REALLY Miss My MOM.

Estelle, said that she had purchased a half a dozen of roses for mom and was going to the cemetery to give them to Mom.

I hope the weather was nice... Last year was my first mother's day with out mom, it was just about 3-4 weeks after she unexpectactly died. I somehow managed to get through it. 

This year, I thought it would be easier.. I can't busy a card, as they don't make them for deceased mothers. So I am blogging instead, I haven't had the time today to go and hunt for the perfect poem to say all I can't seem to find the words to express today.... I just didn't want the day to go by without posting. 

I love you mom, and my heart aches wanting to much to hear your voice once more.

 

It’s Mother’s Day in heaven, and I miss my mother. I wonder if she knows?

It’s Mother’s Day in heaven, and I miss my mother. I wonder if she knows?

Taken as an excerpt

How do we face a day set aside for mothers, when the woman who brought us into this world has been taken from this world? Ask those who have already been down this road and they will tell you that it is a very lonely time. For each of you that will be glowing with smiles, shopping for your mother and taking her out to your favorite restaurant, there will be those of us whose heart will be aching as we remember the last moments spent with our mothers. 

So this Mother’s Day, I will delight in the beauty of roses.

This Mother’s Day allow yourself to feel the love and joy of your children. You are not betraying your mother by feeling happiness. Your mother would want you to be happy on this day and remember her laughter. Grief is normal and there is no easy way to deal with it. Close your eyes and remember your child hood and the happy times spent with Mom. Remember the talks and the wisdom she shared, even remember the fights when you didn't quite see eye to eyeDon't keep these emotions bottled up inside you, perhaps write a special essay or poem, and dedicate it in your mother’s memory, share memories of your special times spent with your mother with family and friends, pull out old photographs or look at a video tape of your mother. Every year on holidays, I light a candle in my mother’s memory. Go out and buy yourself a rose bush and plant it in your flower bed. Each year as summer brings back the birth of roses; your mother’s memory will re-bloom in the beauty of those roses.

Your mother is forever with you, she is in the part of your mind where she will never die. This Mother’s Day rejoice and smile. Your Mother gave you life and with that life she taught you many things, but one thing she may not have taught you was how to say goodbye when her time would come to leave this earth. Death it is just the passage through a door. It is from one room until the next, from this life into eternal life. Right there through the clouds is where your mother is, she is in the beauty of roses that bloom.

Remember your mother this Mother’s Day, mourn in her death, but rejoice in her rebirth.

I will never be able to write anything that matches the love my mother had for me, but may my love for her be found within the wisdom of the words that I share with all of you.

1-800 I'm calling Heaven operator, please patch through a call to our mothers and wish them a Happy Mother’s Day from their children on earth.

Author
Rose DesRochers

http://www.todays-woman.net/article1145.html

Mother's Day....How to use the holiday as a time to heal and remember, not to grieve

How to use the holiday as a time to heal and remember, not to grieve

By Dr. Gail Saltz

TODAYShow.com contributor

updated 5:04 p.m. ET, Wed., May. 7, 2008

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On Mother’s Day, many people feel pressured to do the greeting card/Sunday brunch/bouquet of flowers thing. That is perfectly valid. It satisfies a need to prove you have a good relationship with your mother.

Of course, relationships with one’s mother are complicated and can’t be watered down to good or bad or roses or daisies. Pretty much all mother-child relationships have some conflict built into them, some more than others.

Today, however, I will address dealing with Mother’s Day when your mother is deceased.

Obviously, any day that holds memories — such as a birthday, holiday or anniversary — can be be painful, and can remain painful for years.

On Mother’s Day, everyone else is focused on their mothers. So the feeling of missing your mother — and feeling like you are the only one in the world without a mother — can intensify these feelings of loss. This holds whether or not you had a good relationship with your mother when she was alive.

Though Mother’s Day is a "Hallmark holiday," it still is powerful. No matter how old you are, losing a parent is a regressive experience that makes people feel young, childlike and vulnerable.

So it’s OK to understand that Mother’s Day isn’t always happy. Acknowledge that you are sad and miss your mother. There’s no need to pretend it is not a melancholy time for you. Nearly everyone whose mother is absent feels bereft.

Even as you acknowledge that nothing and nobody can replace your mother, if you are a mother yourself, focus on the joy of having your own children. Celebrating your own motherhood will provide solace.

Finally, if you are estranged from your mother, Mother’s Day provides a good excuse for trying to repair the relationship. In some cases, a relationship is so toxic or abusive it is better ended. But there are many more times when that is not the case.

If, for whatever reason, there has been an evolution into a distance, or else a long-past insult that nobody really cares about anymore, Mother’s Day can allow you to mend that rift.

If you do decide to use Mother's Day as an opportunity to heal your relationship, remember that it's not a time to accuse or bring up old wounds. And don't be afraid to acknowledge that you miss having more of a relationship with her.

There is benefit from telling your mother you have been thinking of her and would like to achieve more closeness. The fact it is Mother’s Day will likely soften her up, as well. The time is ripe to make amends. So spend some time together, talk by phone, or send a letter or note. It is wonderful to enjoy your mother while she is still around.